Observations of Life That May Help You

If you are ever down, whether worried or depressed, here are some little observations I have made in my lifetime that may help you. Note that these are observations, I do not stand tall claiming that my beliefs are truest of all truths, they are merely things I've noticed and have integrated into my own beliefs.

1) An optimist and a pessimist will always call themselves a realist. Chances are, you aren't one. So instead of worrying about something you 'know will happen', realise that whatever you think will happen isn't the only way things can end up.

2) You will never know the future (unless you're a psychic who has proven time and time again that your predictions are always true. Then that's just impressive). The past has happened, it is recorded in your memory. The present is where your feet are standing. The future is a fogged empty space. Whichever path you walk, whatever action you take, you forge a new piece of the future, one that immediately becomes the present, and then the past. Therefore, a person who says to themselves "My life is spiralling downwards, I just know this and that will happen" is, in their mind, constructing a prediction, and image of the future, forged by opinion and reasoning. When you're upset, what you believe will happen is never set in stone. When you're upset, your "I-am-a-realist" side will tell you to panic, because a constructed image of reality is heading your way. Realize that the future is made of chance and reasoning, and that anything can happen. That image of the future you made up? Yeah. That's a picture of  the future you made up. It's not the future. Due to this, faith can always still be applied. Hope is always still valid. Instead of searching desperately what the face of the future is like, look at your feet, and walk whichever direction you want. You will create a path by walking one.


3) People who claim that no-one cares about their problems have most likely never asked someone to simply sit down and listen to them. A lot of the time, I have managed to help a lot of people through their hard times by simply asking what is wrong, and simply sitting down to listen. They tell me I've helped them greatly, but in reality, all I did was sit and listen. No, the person who helped them was themselves. Know why? They admitted themselves to seek help, to tell someone their problems. They allowed it, they helped themselves.

4) Seeking for help is not being weak, nor is crying. For some reason, people have begun to associate crying and/or calling out for help is weak, and therefore should be avoided. This is like telling a dog that continuously bites and electric fence that he shouldn't ask his pals how to get past the fence, and should instead keep biting until the fence has broken, so it can be a bigger dog and gain respect from his peers. How is that dog to know that there's a gate 7 metres from him? As for thinking crying is a weakness, that's just stupid. Imagine you just slapped a woman in the face because she was crying at her father's funeral. Now imagine you kicked a kid for crying when he fell off his bike and grazed his knee. Now imagine yourself punching yourself in the gut because of whatever you were last sad about. You're punishing yourself for letting out a plea for help, a signal of distress, and a release of emotion. You have reasons to cry, so cry. Be human. A million robots want what you have. Feelings. Sorrow is equally important to anger and happiness. Never be ashamed of crying. Never be ashamed to ask for help.

5) When you burst into a sudden deep depression but don't know the reason, it is most likely because it is more than one problem. The difficulty of this is that unlike a big and major problem, people often believe their smaller issues are not worth anything, or some kind of burden to people, and they keep them bottled up. Due to this, they essentially constantly blow air into an invisible balloon of problems. This is a big problem because they're like ninjas, they come out of nowhere, but hit you VERY hard. Realizing this, try to let someone know of your small issues. Talking it out is more helpful than you believe. And no, those small issues of yours are more dangerous than you think. It is most often not a burden at all to anyone to let them know.

I can't think of any more right now, but I think I have more. I'll update later if I think of any more, but these are pretty much the biggies.
Moral of the story: Don't be afraid to cry. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Stop looking for what will happen, look at what you can do.
In the wise words of the Assassin's; "Nothing is True. Everything is Permitted." Your worries of the future are not true. Any action you take to forge the future can be done. (Oh god it feels so good to apply Assassin's Creed to things)

Now, look at me in my virtual imagination-constructed face. You are doing well. Cry, laugh and scream. You're meant to.

Now, think of your friends and family. They are there for you.

Now, imagine them on a big spider web (Unless you hate spiders. Then imagine it's a trampoline.) Whatever you do will affect them. When you're happy, they should and will know it. When you're down, they should and will feel it.

Now, imagine my virtual face again (If you'd like, give me a super hot body, but make sure it doesn't distract you from what I'll say next). By reading this super long post, you've demonstrated that you care about being a better person. By doing so, you have proven to be an amazing one. If you're smiling right now, look at yourself in the mirror. That person that you see is why people would love to help you. Why people love being with you, and why you are an amazing person. You are a shining star.



Have an amazing day/night. <3